How To Help Someone Special When They're Feeling Down
There’s nothing worse than seeing the one that you love suffering with mental health. Mental health affects around one in four people in Britain, and up to 75% of these problems are left untreated. Sadly, mental health problems have taken the lives of many celebrities over the past few years, and that’s not to mention regular civilians who are battling with their own issues too! So, when you’re up close and personal with someone that’s battling with depression, anxiety, and many other forms of mental health issues, it’s time to step up and be the person they need you to be. Here’s how to help someone special when they’re feeling down.
Don’t shrug it off
The worst thing that you could do as an outsider to a mental health issue is shrug it off, or tell them to cheer up. There’s a difference between feeling a bit sorry for yourself and struggling with depression, and it’s not always clear of the cause either. So please, avoid asking them why they’re depressed when their life seems so good, and don’t, please don’t make them feel bad about the way that they are feeling. Believe me, they already do. Depression can stem from pretty much anywhere, and so can anxiety too. The majority of the time, the person who is suffering is struggling to get to the route of the problem, and the last thing they need is to be told to “cheer up”.
Make them feel special
Sometimes the cause for feeling low and anxious is because they simply don’t feel needed or even wanted in this world. This can easily happen when you’re stuck in a rigmarole routine and nothing especially spectacular happens. If your partner is struggling with depression, anxiety, or any other form of mental health, then why not look into a gift for her or even a surprise weekend away to make her feel special. After all, she needs it more than anything right now, and doesn’t she deserve it too?!
Encourage them to seek help
The most important thing that you could do to help your loved one is to encourage them to seek help from their GP. The most common response is along the lines of not wanting to be pumped full of antidepressants, and that’s their choice. However, being depressed doesn’t necessarily mean that their Doctor is going to prescribe them drugs and let them get on with it. In fact, it’s the total opposite. While antidepressants are an option, there are other forms of help like regular visits to the Doctor, therapy, CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy), and even changing up lifestyle choices to see if that helps. It will also help if you’re clued up on how antidepressants work too. They help reset the chemical imbalance in your brain that’s making you feel low and depressed. They don’t block out the problem as such, they simply try and fix it. Clue yourself up on all of the possibilities so that you can try and get your loved one to seek medical help.
Let them talk
Sometimes all someone needs from you is the ability to try and explain the way that they are feeling, so let them talk. You will find that you get a large insight to the way that their mind is working right now, and even if it doesn’t make sense to you, you should let them talk it out. Often, getting issues that you’ve been bottling up off your chest is all the remedy that you need, and also the feeling that you can talk to your partner (even if they don’t understand fully) is comforting to the person suffering. When they’re having a particularly good day, why not sit them down and ask them to talk about it so that you can help them in anyway possible. Show them that you want to be supportive and you should be able to get them talking.
Open up to them about your personal issues
It can be hard to get someone to talk about what’s bothering them, especially if they feel like the reason they’ve got is ridiculous. Even if you don’t have mental health problems, it’s likely that things bother you, or you’ve got fears and anxieties about certain things. Open up to your loved one about your issues to show them that you’re trying to understand, and that you want to help. Being able to share personal thoughts and experiences is important in a relationship, and also important in helping someone heal.
Put yourself in their shoes
One of the best ways of helping someone is by putting yourself in their shoes, or at least trying to anyway. Think about what your loved one deals with each and every day. Do they work? Do they have friends? Are they constantly running around after the children? How are you treating her? Is she having troubles with her family? All of these factors can contribute to someone feeling depressed, or having worries that turn into a larger problem. If you’re able to identify anything that could be contributing or even the main reason for their mental health issues, do everything in your power to try and change it for them.
Also, putting yourself in their shoes might just make you realise how much they are struggling, and help you to relate to them a little more than you’re already trying to do. One key thing to remember is that just because you can’t necessarily see mental health, it doesn’t mean that it’s not there.
Take all of these points into consideration and apply the necessary actions so that you can finally try and help that special someone in your life. Don’t forget that the first port of call should always be the Doctor, as they are medically trained and can offer the best support.